It’s very rare when you go to a real estate investor networking event that you don’t hear somebody discuss the topic of mentors. People are always talking about this. Some ask whether they need one and if they do, where they can find one. I’ve even heard people ask if they should go out and hire one.
There’s no question Investors understand the importance of having a mentor in there business. Far too many people have gone down the wrong road learning the hard way. Some investors with strong personalities may take a bit more time to discover this need, but eventually, they do ultimately come to their senses. Once they have a clear understanding of what’s at stake, they become some of the loudest advocates of the process.
During my drive home from the networking event, I had a Eureka moment. It’s usually very late when these networking events finally wrap up. I enjoy the drive home after these events even though it’s very late because it’s when some of the best ideas pop into my head. It’s a great time to reflect and cultivate new ideas for where I want to go. This particular night was no different because I got thinking about how I met every Mentor I’ve had in the past. I realized something incredible.
Before I even got halfway home, I understood the process of meeting a mentor was the same for every mentor I had. This realization was indispensable to me for many reasons. The first reason was significant because I could repeat the process if the mentor were good. The second reason was if I wanted to Mentor somebody else, I could be a big help and influence. Especially if I knew how to position myself in front of the right people that wanted to learn.
So the breakthrough I had was discovering the fact that every Mentor I had, I met early. What I mean by this is very simple. I met these people early on in the process. These people were usually the first to expose the method or manner to me. An excellent example of this would be an old sports coach or a school teacher and even perhaps a relative. After the person exposed the knowledge to me, everything grew organically from there. This realization ultimately illustrates the fact that we shouldn’t attempt to force any relationship.
On the other end of the spectrum, we’ve all seen or experienced first hand a relationship that failed. Almost every time one person was less committed to the relationship than the other. The person wanting to make the connection work the most would end up overcompensating attempting to force something that wasn’t natural. This imbalance always leads to failure.
So, in conclusion, I learned what my action steps would be going forward. I would need to make sure I looked in the mirror so that I wasn’t creating an imbalance with a relationship. If I’m feeling desperate and think a mentor is my only answer, I’m probably off in the wrong direction. I would need to respectfully make myself valuable to the person I’m looking to work with if I want them as a mentor. If I find myself overextending or having to chase somebody, it’s not a good fit. I should not be doing anything to expect anything in return. If I feel compelled to give first, good things will come back to me. I need to step up and work my tail off. I can’t expect another Real Estate Investor to do it all for me. So there’s my Eureka moment.